One thing that we went into our marriage knowing, was that statistically, international marriages are far more likely to fail than marriages involving two people with a similar background.
For me it’s important to not forget this. It helps me to compromise when I need to to, where I might otherwise let pride get in the way.
Today we’re celebrating our 5th St. Valentine’s Day together. It’s hard to believe that over 5 years has passed since we first met. It’s harder to believe that in all this time *Twinkle* has not suffered a nervous breakdown or tried to kill me, given what a pain I can be sometimes. And it’s wonderful to feel that our relationship is stronger than ever, and that we are as much in love now, or more, than we were when we first met.
I look around at my friends and acquaintances in similar happy marriages (i.e. those with Japanese wives) and draw strength from seeing them working so well together (Invisible Gaijin & Doramimy being an outstanding example!). I also look at the many who are in failing / failed international marriages, and try to learn from them too.
It’s funny how when I was younger, I wasn’t a traditionalist and couldn’t give a hoot about marriage, but how now become such an important part of me – it’s something that I feel adds a great deal of value to my life.
In other news, last night I was fortunate to be invited to Danny Choo’s latest CGM (Consumer Generated Media) Night – held in Akihabara’s futuristic blood donation centre! I must say, it was great to catch up with friends, exchange ideas, and be a part of the community. There are some wonderful people around.